Good judgement comes from experience, and experience often comes as the result of poor judgement.

Our experience makes up our story, the record of our value.

Our story captures the characters, conflicts, and resolutions on our journey. With each new chapter in our story, we grow by solving problems and resolving conflicts. As we increase our value, ideally we develop better judgement.

Sometimes we lose our sense of purpose. We feel stagnant and realize we stopped growing. Maybe it feels like we’re solving the same problems instead of getting fresh problems to solve. As a result, we aren’t contributing and don’t feel seen or recognized for our tireless efforts.

These are signals something disconnected you from your value.

We often feel disrespected, misunderstood, and completely worn out. We start our days with a sense of dread, end the week feeling defeated, and openly wonder why we even bother.

We get unconsciously disconnected from our value — we don’t even realize it’s happening until it’s too late.

One day, you realize you are operating in a vicious cycle of chaos, fear, and friction. Resistance — the little liar voice in your head — knocks you down. Then the ‘Tyranny of the Urgent_’_ hijacks your time and energy.

We’re fed the lie that this is just how it is — and somehow we swallow it.

Told to buck up and deal with it, we end up surrendering our agency, trading away our power in such small slices we don’t even notice it. Fear spikes and reaction ends up creating more friction as a byproduct of just trying to survive.

Friction erodes value — including our own, destroys trust, and burns people out. As the friction builds, our programs and projects grind to a halt. Everything gets more complex, costly, and time-consuming.

The good news is we can break the cycle.

The first step is to realize what is happening is not acceptable. It’s why I’m driven to help you connect with the business and deliver value faster – by connecting with your own value and breaking the cycle of despair.

That’s why we get together every Friday for office hours. Join us for a dose of optimism, energy, and your best next step to solve the problem in front of you and reconnect with your value.

About the Author Michael Santarcangelo

The founder of Security Catalyst, Michael develops exceptional leaders and powerful communicators with the security mindset for success.

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